Body image can be a big issue following an ABI, especially  the effect it has on your self esteem.

It is human nature to notice differences in the way people look and behave. It is something we all do. But when people stare at you because of being in a wheelchair or having a scar or because of the way you move or talk, it can be hurtful and embarrassing.

Most people will not mean you any harm – they will stare because they are curious. They may ask what you think are stupid questions or make assumptions about you based on what they see. It could be that they need help from you to understand. For example, if your issue is that you look normal but your ABI has affected your balance and coordination, just say so. Other people can deal with situations better when they understand them.

Appearance is important and we all want to be considered attractive but personality is just as important if not more so. It is easy to look in the mirror and focus on the things you do not like. A good exercise would be to look in the mirror and notice the things about your appearance you do like, like your eyes or smile or new hairstyle!

Taking time to dress nicely and look good on the outside can help you feel better about yourself on the inside. Sometimes it can be difficult to choose what to wear, and if you are finding it hard, ask a friend or a relative for help. They can help you plan your outfits and lay them out the night before, ready to put on the next morning.

Remember, all young people worry about their appearance, whether or not they have an ABI. It is a time in your life when how you look starts to feel very important, and the opinions of your friends (or boyfriend or girlfriend) matter a lot. It is worth knowing that, although people may notice your differences at first, once they get to know you, they will not notice as much. This is because they get to know the real you – the person on the inside.